With a new year, many people feel that this is the time to make a fresh start with positive resolutions. But what if you have already broken a resolution? If this is you, you are not alone. Research has shown that 23% of people quit by the end of January, with many quitting by the second Friday of the month.
What’s important to understand is that so-called "failed" resolutions can significantly affect one's mental well-being. The pressure to succeed can make mental health conditions even more difficult.
The reality is, meaningful change doesn't occur overnight. You won't magically wake up on January 1st with a completely revamped lifestyle and no setbacks. Change is a gradual process.
Moreover, let's acknowledge the current season - winter, a time traditionally linked with rest and recuperation. Coming off the holiday season, which is often the busiest time of the year, you deserve to take a moment and relax. If you haven't reached your goals yet, don't be too hard on yourself.
Setting realistic, attainable goals can positively impact your mental health. Remember, you don't have to tie goals only to the new year. You can set them and begin your journey whenever you feel ready and comfortable.
Remember, self-improvement is a continuous journey, and it's okay if the path isn't linear. Embrace the journey, be gentle with yourself, and remember that your happiness is more important than any goal.
Here are a few tips to help conquer 2024:
Rest up.
Allow yourself to take a pause. If you are not feeling satisfied with yourself, take a moment to reflect. Are you being too hard on yourself? Are you allowing yourself grace? Are you giving yourself the time and support to make these goals happen?
Attaining your goals will be much more difficult if you are already feeling burnout. Take time out of your week to pay attention solely on you. You can read up more on how to prevent burnout from our blog, How to Prevent Burnout.
Reassess your goals.
Ask yourself, what is not working and why? It may be because your plans are too vague.
Vague plans are often more likely to fall through. Instead of a broad goal like "live a healthier lifestyle," consider something more specific. Consider options like "exercise for 20 minutes daily" or "have one fruit or vegetable with every meal." Suddenly, your goal is clearer and way more doable.
Set milestones and reward yourself.
Where do you want to see yourself in the coming months? If you're eyeing a long-term goal, like a move to a new city, work backward from your desired month of relocation. What steps can you take in the preceding months to set yourself up for success?
Also, be sure to also schedule rewards for yourself along the way. While you're conquering those smaller goals that lead to the major milestone, schedule in some rewards. Plan a spa day after a month of hustle! Sounds like the perfect way to keep the motivation flowing and head toward that next achievement.
Find support from others.
Forming a group of like-minded people can quickly build a network of support. This will keep you focused and connected to a bigger community.
If your goal is to take a walk 5 days a week, gather up some neighbors and set up a walking group. This will help you avoid making excuses and look forward to meeting up with friends.
Embrace failure.
As the great Winston Churchill said, "Success is not final, failure is not fatal; it is the courage to continue that counts". Learn to forgive yourself for minor slip-ups and don't beat yourself up if you miss your goal. Use your mistakes as motivation to get back on track even better than before.
Do not forget, the most important consideration is to not give up!